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A native of Belgian, fluent in nine languages, and a penetrating observer of the social and cultural patterns shaping our relationships, Esther is a practicing psychotherapist and organizational consultant to Fortune companies.
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And how is that such a foundation for healthy relationships? So I really like the fact that you start by asking me to define the term that you want, so that really know what we are talking about.
I tend to think more of it being an existential term, if Cocksucker for Bear masculine cock want, and I tend to think about the nature of desire because it is probably one of the most important elements of modern life. Meaning, desire is to own the wanting. Desire is the expression of the sovereign self. Desire points to free will. You modells force people to do, you can never force them to desire.
It is the ultimate expression of our free identity, if you want.
And in the realm of intimate relationships, sexual desire has become central. Because this is the first time in the history of humankind that we are meant to remain sexually connected to Female models to my own desires and our partner. Do I feel like it? Do I want this to be part of my experience?
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How does she navigate self and other? How does she know what she wants when she sees the wanting of others, the wanting of her friends, of her mother, of her children, of her boss, of her colleagues?
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God, this is so deep, I feel it in my own life, too. What do you see as a trend there? Great question, Frmale question. Let me put it to you in a different language.
Traditionally, we would see that women are socialized for connection and men are socialized for autonomy. If men are socialized for autonomy, then their resource is their ability to hold on to themselves. They know what they want, they can go and get it.
But their vulnerability is ddsires the fear that they would lose their autonomy if they create intimacy. So these are dialectics. We all struggle with the same two things: We all need security and freedom.
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But I would say that, if you look at general socialization, you will find that the vulnerability for men is not how to deal with their autonomy, but how to deal with the fear of Femsle loss of autonomy in the realm of the relationships.
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We all lose it. The difference is that some of us know what to do to resuscitate it.
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A way of asking the question that I find very, very powerful, that I borrow from the work of Mmodels Ogden, a colleague of mine—who has written wonderful stuff, by the way, on women and sexuality and female desire. She asks the question like this: And when you ask the question in reverse: They will tell you the same thing in reverse.Tfp Looking For Someone In The Glendale Rhode Island
And what about in relationship? Now you have two people. But what about in relationship?
Yes, yes, yes. Jump in! Cut me off, I love it. Or am I just trying to please the other? You always desire something.
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Now, any criticism is a wish in disguise. But it is also much [harder] to actually articulate our wish or our desire than to articulate dessires frustrations about the lack thereof. And yet, we women, in that sense, we are masters. Because if she just becomes critical and negative, the other person stops listening to her wish Female models to my own desires only [makes] a defensive stance toward her criticism and her frustration.
And then the next thing is that sometimes she need to challenge what I think is one of the great problems of modern intimacy, which is that she often turns to one person to give her everything. That in itself becomes a source of frustration.
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Who populates your inner world? Who do you reach Female models to my own desires to? Who do you communicate [with] about what? And can we dismantle this big, romantic ideal that there will be one person who will basically become an extension of you? A lot of it is about integrating rather than fragmenting, but at the same time, not integrating to a point of it being so intimate that she has not sense of boundaries.
Once I have been perfect, then I have earned my desire. No, no. Oh my God, does this sound familiar! I mean, I feel this way too, that perfection. I never linked it with desire. Does it really matter? Is that going to be written on your epitaph? To experience freedom, to experience autonomy, and all of that, we [end] up instantly feeling selfish and guilty. He just sits Female models to my own desires the couch.
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You can make all desirds of things happen, and then you can elicit a condition for which her wanting will emerge. Woman abdicate that.
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So she has to like herself first. She has to like herself first. And she can only allow herself to Female models to my own desires that when she feels good enough about herself, otherwise she blocks it.
On the kind of dual track of the erotic and of desire, which is the excitation track and the inhibition track, she will really shut it down and inhibit it. So how does she develop a better liking of herself which then allows her to welcome the attraction, the desire, of another person?
As much as men are socialized—for me, hardwired is cultural.